Episode 61: Relationship Toxicity, Red Flags, Abuse, and the Impact of Not even Knowing it

Guest: Dr. Shelley Morgan

Shelley brings forward a story where her first deep relationship transformed into marriage, and later a relationship so toxic that even she could not recognize its depth. After giving birth to each of her 3 children, she developed postpartum depression, which gradually shifted into situational depression. She describes how her third pregnancy was tough and the morning sickness she endured was around the clock, not to mention many other factors that she faced. Shelley shared that her husband at the time was absent from the marriage, not there to support her as he himself was overwhelmed with his career, leaving Shelley to feel helpless. She opened to speak about how abuse was never physical for her, rather deep subtleties, and overtime the person she was began to shrink and continued to become smaller. She was on the receiving end of manipulative comments, intimidation, blaming, being gaslit, and this only influenced Shelley to strive for more and more perfection, yet unable to attain perfection. She spoke about the many ways she was bullied and lectured through long emails, and later faced a period of financial abuse. Shelley expressed there were moments she felt scared, judged, inadequate, and she also began doubting herself. This idea of not being able to make a mistake haunted her and made her out to lack confidence in herself and her abilities, all which produced high levels of anxiety. Her key message to the listeners is that: get help, take the risk, your life can be free; photocopy all documents and information, and know where all your paperwork is kept; keep a separate account; prepare while you wait; the narcissist never changes, so make the necessary changes yourself.

 

Guest Bio: Dr. Morgan holds a bachelor’s degree in biology and Environmental Science from the University of Western Ontario and a postgraduate Doctor of Pharmacy from the State University of New York at Buffalo. She is also the Founder and CEO of Rx Billing Genie, a technology corporation where she co-developed an app that helps pharmacists save valuable time when processing prescriptions. Since its launch, she and her business partner have collaborated with a national pharmacy Association, and they have been featured in the Pharmacy Practice and Business magazine.

Dr. Morgan has been a panelist in several community, provincial and national discussions. She has learned a lot from her father who advised her to focus on solutions for problems, this has resulted in her being an entrepreneur to look out for, she continues to work on projects to improve the disposition of those in marginalized communities. In her spare time, Dr. Morgan has helped to create a charity organization, Educate GenNext, which supports students in both Jamaica and Canada. Her favourite pastimes also include, reading, watching movies, and of course, creating new ideas.

 

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Home Sweet Hope: https://www.flightforhope.com/hsh

Halton Women’s Place: https://haltonwomensplace.com/