Episode 38: Introduced to the Foster Care System + the Quest for Questions Began

Guest: Felicia Carty

Felicia openly shares that her upbringing began with a mother who suffered with undiagnosed schizophrenia, and when she was the tender age of 6, one day at school, she met her two older brothers at the school office where they were then taken and placed in foster care. She remained in the foster care system until she was 18 years of age. Felicia connects with difficult moments and unknown feelings, never feeling settled anywhere, in addition to her identity as a mixed-race child, being raised in a predominantly Caucasian area, she carried a great deal of shame, not wanting others to know her full ethnic identity. She explores the difficulties from childhood right to adulthood, impacts post foster care, and learning later about her brother’s mental health diagnosis. Felicia expresses how difficult it felt to catch a break, feeling heartbroken all over again as what her brother would go through is what she lived through with her mother. She talks about the direct impact to her mental well-being over the years, habits she developed, co-dependencies that became constant in her life, and how the traumas that she has lived through have shaped who she has become as she has learned to re-balance her life. Her key message to the listeners is that: if you are in foster care — aim for any kind of stability; don’t leave a stable situation, whether it be a home, job, relationship; don’t ever think you are crazy for things falling apart; open your heart to love again.


Guest Bio: Felicia was born and raised in Calgary, Alberta and she now lives and works in Toronto, Ontario. She is the child of an Afro-Caribbean mother, and a Sri Lankan father. Felicia attended the University of Toronto and Centennial College for Journalism and holds minor degrees in Studio Art and Philosophy. She has since written articles for interest magazines and has worked in Communications in the non-profit sector. Most recently, Felicia has turned her attention to long-form writing, receiving two merit scholarships from Humber College’s School of Creative Writing.

Her blended diasporic roots have become part of the focus of her current work in a memoir titled, The Pigeon’s Eggs, set to be released in March 2022. When she is not working, Felicia enjoys exploring the city on her bike, experimenting with desserts and meals in the kitchen, and finding the latest comedy special or TV series to watch while she’s working out.


Passionate about: The Child Welfare Political Action Committee Canada (Child Welfare PAC) is a registered Canadian charity that advocates for a progressive child welfare system.   www.childwelfarepac.com/